Everyone wants desperately to control their own destiny, but there are some things we can control and many others that we can’t control.

Here are just a few examples of things we can’t control:

Mother nature
World catastrophes
Terrorists

However, there are some major things about our lives we have total control over:

Your attitude towards life
Your work habits
Your degree of motivation

If you want to make more money than you ever have, you first need to imagine it. Once you have visualized it, then you can do it.

If you are not successful, then you need to make changes TODAY. If the habits you have now are not leading you down the road you wish for, then it is time to do away with them and create new habits.

Now is the time to eliminate your bad attitude and overcome the way you think.

Let’s talk about how your attitude and habits affect your ability to make money.

There are certain rules for succeeding financially … like with ‘golfing’ there are ‘rules’ … and there are rules to winning the online marketing business as well.

However, the problem is you probably don’t know the rules of the online marketing game, do you?

This makes it quite difficult formulate a strategy because you don’t understand what the GAME is all about! And that’s why you aren’t successful …yet.

Once you learn the rules, the game becomes much easier for you to succeed at.

So now is the time to look forward!

Look toward changing those habits that have always held you back… identify these bad habits and write them down. Then you can SEE them for what they are… roadblocks to your success. Hate these habits. Kill them permanently.

Do you ease up after succeeding? Do you tend to procrastinate? Do you fail to plan ahead?

Each of these is a bad habit that is preventing you from becoming successful.

Don’t settle for something less than what you want! Go for your dreams. Don’t be afraid to reach high.

Then and only then will you have the motivation to succeed.

In the end, there is only one rule you need for success: To stop doing what has prevented you from being successful and start creating new habits that will get you closer to your goals!

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Every one of us wants to be successful, but we often rely on luck and chance to achieve our goals. The best example in this case is someone who wants to get rich but only has one alternative: playing the Lotto. Of course, there are chances of becoming rich over night, but how likely is it that this will actually happen? Creating a realistic plan in order to achieve the desired results is vital in any case, no matter how high or low your hopes are.

Your first step should be to take strides to boost self esteem. It can be truly challenging to boost self esteem, and sometimes you’ll fall behind before you truly boost self esteem enough to proceed towards reaching your goal. There are various ways to boost self esteem, some things work better to boost self esteem for one person than they’d work for another. But know that you can boost self esteem, and that your success can be made even greater when you boost self esteem – because you have faith in yourself and your goal!

The safest way to do this is by taking successive steps and gradually increasing your chances of reaching your ideal. Try to think of a metaphor and compare your desires with a professional swimming competition. The first thing you need to do, in order to have chances of winning the race, is to make sure you are not afraid of the water. Before you even consider entering the race you have to eliminate your fears. They are the ones holding you back, but be careful, some of your fears might save you from getting hurt or failing.

Once you are convinced that your goal is worth fighting for, you have to start the hardest stage in you plan: preparation. You cannot expect to win a professional swimming race when you don’t even know how to swim. Start with the basics and never skip any steps out of desire of reaching your goal faster. The experience and knowledge you are skipping will probably come back and hurt you later on. Prepare by taking gradually increasing steps. Swim half a lap first, and then move on to a full lap. Your skills will progress each time and you will soon beat your own lap records every time you enter the swimming pool. It might take days, weeks or years to prepare for the “race”, depending on what your goals are. The main thing is to enter the race feeling confident in your own success and having all the skills that would allow you to win.

Taking steps one at a time and keeping your plan realistic gives you two important benefits. The order and precision of a plan brings confidence. You don’t feel like you are reengaging each new issue on a day-to-day basis. Organizing your strategy reduces the chances of making wrong moves or taking less efficient decisions. Secondly, having a sound plan has many psychological benefits and your subconscious mind worries less, giving you more energy to concentrate on what’s important. You are creating a pattern in your awareness that accepts success and integrates it in your plan. When both you conscious and your subconscious mind believe in your chances of reaching a goal you benefit from a power of concentration and focus that eliminate outside interference and let you follow the shortest path to success.

Even though chance may still play an important role in your quest to reach your ideal, having a realistic plan let’s you change the “unlikely” into “possible”.

Who you are today, your personality and your values, depends on the past events that shaped you. You can always find connections between a present thought or feeling and a past event, no matter how far away it might seem. Explanations for present events can be found by going through some memories, and this practice shows you how to do that. By trying this you will be able to reinterpret yourself, by learning not to judge your actions but to accept and understand them.

What this really incorporates is developing a positive mental attitude through your actions in the past. You will probably be able to bring up at least several instances where you didn’t behave how you wished you had. Re-evaluating your behavior will also create a positive mental attitude because we can all learn a positive mental attitude from our mistakes. It’s not difficult to enforce a positive mental attitude as you examine your memories. Once you begin, you’ll find it easier and easier to see things with a positive mental attitude!

Begin by finding a comfortable position, in a chair or armchair. Have a piece of paper or notebook and a pen ready and put them besides you. Try to relax your body and your mind and breath rhythmically through your nose. When you have achieved a state of increased self-awareness go back in time and think of an unpleasant memory that has marked your entire life. You don’t have to find something dramatic – in childhood, for example, even the most insignificant looking remark may have a huge impact on your personality. Let’s say that, as a child, you broke a crystal vase that your mother held dear. She might have said: “You can’t do anything right!”. Of course, that was just an anger driven reaction on her part that disappeared after a short while but you, as a child, were deeply affected by it.

When you have selected your past event try to briefly write it down and finish with a phrase that summarizes your experience (e.g. “You can’t do anything right!”). Make sure your breathing is still rhythmical and relaxed and then think about a minimum of three things that you can learn from that past experience. Do not get stuck on the final phrase, but try to analyze your action in a non-judgmental manner. The main idea is to identify and assimilate the things that you could have improved. Don’t quickly dismiss your past problem by saying “it was a child’s mistake”. The goal here is to find out how any mistake can teach you to become better, instead of lowering your self-esteem and confidence.

When you have found a few positive remarks about the past experience try to write them down. Don’t force your mind to come up with the ideas; instead, try to let everything flow naturally. After you’re done writing make sure to read the statements a couple of times and remember their essence. Put the paper aside and get back to connecting with your breathing. Take a minute or two to focus solely on your breathing and then recall the positive ideas you jotted down on the piece of paper. As an example, in the case of the broken vase, you could write: “I have to concentrate more on my actions”. Repeat that thought in your mind and make sure it represents you completely. Do the same with all the other positive ideas you cam up with. Believing in them and repeating their essence enables you to make them part of who you are.

This exercise is especially useful when you are aware that you are about to go through a similar experience. You may not be in danger of breaking another vase, but you might be in the situation where something a friend holds dear will be in your hands, in your responsibility. If you feel stressed and fearful about that situation make sure you recall the positive aspects from your exercise. Repeat them in your mind before the event and your self-confidence will receive a well-deserved boost, allowing you to do your job free from any negative roots to the past.

Usually people are afraid of bad changes, things that affect their existence in a negative way. The question arising is how to cure our fears of change? The most important thing is to understand that life is always made from ups and downs and nobody can be in a permanent ascending trend, simply because that is impossible. Even the most envied stars experience the downs life has to offer, so nobody can avoid them.

However, the most important thing is not how to avoid changes, fears and bad experiences, but how to learn from them. It is crucial not to let problems overwhelm you, but to know how to use them in your favor.

There are many theories of motivation as to why change so scares humans. Some theories of motivation suggest that an event in our childhood can trigger our fears, while other theories of motivation aren’t as defined. Whatever the theories of motivation, our fears can be very real. Theories of motivation can point to our problems, but what are the theories of motivation to resolve our fears of change?

There is no doubt that problems affect us, which is actually normal, due to the fact that we have feelings, but, nevertheless, every single hard moment of our lives should make us even stronger. That is why specialists suggest that you should always analyze and meditate on the worse situation you had to deal with, in the course of your life. Try to learn from your mistakes, because they will help you be prepared for the changes or less pleasant situations to come.

There are many ancient beliefs that consider that every single episode of our lives happens with a pre-determined reason. They also think that life, somehow prepares us for certain events to come, so if we focus enough attention on our previous experiences, we will understand many things from the present.

With all that, it is also true that the unexpected can happen anytime. However, you should keep in mind that a change in not always for the worse and consequently, you must never let go of a chance, because you are afraid to take the risk. Remember that, from time to time, something has to happen in order to free you from monotony, so you shouldn’t be surprised if, at a certain moment in time, instead of being afraid of change, you desire it with all your heart.

If you just don’t feel capable of realizing what a certain change in your life, actually means, here’s a list of tips that might help you get mobilized:

· Try to think only of the positive impacts that will result after the change. See how important they are and meditate upon how to multiply them, by adding some other good aspects, which need certain assistance.

· It is always good to picture somebody else in your situation, as picturing ourselves in a less desirable position, always looks more dramatic than it really is. If you realize that the other person can handle the change, you can be sure you’ll be able to handle it as well.

· Imagine the worse situation that can result after the change. Now try to find various solutions to it. Meditate on how much you can loose, if the worst happened, and how important those things are to you. If you find more than one reasonable solution, you are safe – the change can’t be stronger than you are!

There are things in life, which, in case we loose or damage, we can always gain, buy or obtain them back. Time is not one of them. Once it is gone, there is no way to get it back! Anyway, if you realize that a certain period of your life was less productive or was lost in a way or another, there is no point in crying over spilt milk – there is definitely nothing you can do about it, but learning from your own mistakes can be very effective towards a power of positive thinking.

Take the time and meditate on why you feel that period of time was not productive. Analyze what you did wrong, what kept you from having great results, what contributed to your disappointments etc. All the information you gather will be extremely useful when it comes to establishing new guiding lines, in what concerns organizing your time in a more efficient manner. This kind of power of positive thinking is most effective. Here are some valuable advices that you might want to bear in mind, when drawing your plan:

· Think about your priorities, desires and aspirations and make time for accomplishing them. By doing that you’ll have the feeling your time has been used in the best manner possible. Concentrate on choosing especially those things that you always said you would do, but you never did, because that will offer you the impression you somehow made up for the lost time.
· Don’t postpone things like: duties, taxes, apologizing to the persons you hurt, spending time with your family, because all these actions have a certain charm and offer a certain feeling of completeness and serenity when performed at the right moment. They also increase your power of positive thinking.
· We all have dynamic lives and we have a million of things to take care of every day. That is why, it is crucial to make the right choices and concentrate on the priorities. Deal with the fact that you won’t be able to satisfy everybody, but, nevertheless, focus on the persons you really care about. It is them you are not allowed to let down. That does not mean you have to neglect the persons seeking your help or support, but do not try to please everybody at the same time, because you’ll get exhausted shortly and you’ll end up by disappointing everybody.
· Aim at having to deal only with people with an efficient time management. Their own power of positive thinking will aid you. Don’t waist your time with people who repeatedly are late for appointments, postpone meetings or never get there. Try to be in contact only with serious persons, who understand how precious time is. Otherwise, you’ll permanently feel unjustified. In case your job obliges you to deal with this kind of people, always try to have a back up plan at hand, something else to do, in order not to wait precious time.
· Learn to do more than one thing at the time. This does not mean to turn into Napoleon, but to keep your perspectives open. Utilize a power of positive thinking to help you accomplish multiple tasks competently. For example, do your nails while you’re taking a bath, exercise while watching TV, listen to the news while cooking or cleaning the house, read the newspaper on the bus, have breakfast while you’re answering e-mails etc. Remember there is not enough time for all the things we need to do, so… combine them.

Use all these tips together with a correct diet, exercise at least three times a week and sleep no more than eight hours a night. Your power of positive thinking can actually benefit you twenty-four hours a day! Keep in mind that time is a gift – this way you will live as you’re suppose to – like everyday was the best day of your life!

Fate, destiny, resignation – they all seem to be synonyms up to a certain point. But, what if your whole life you’ve been a fighter and simply refuse to surrender in a certain situation? Can we rebel against our own destiny? Can we truly decide the way that we are going to follow in life?

These are all questions with no definite or final answer, but nevertheless, everything related to this matter also depends on our determination, our strength to defeat the obstacles we meet before reaching the ultimate aspiration.

A lot of people, who have been remarkably good at doing something during their lives, including business, sports, science etc, confess that fate seemed to be against them at the beginning and even throughout their career. Most of them lived completely different lives before being successful and they are proud to remember those times. It was indeed hard, most of them say, but they wanted to get to the top badly; nothing could have held them back from getting where they wanted. They also admit that they never dared to dream they would be so famous or successful in the future.

All these facts make us wonder, whether an apparently pre-established destiny can be modified or completely changed, if we manage to prove we really want something and we are determined to go all the way to get it, no matter what. And if we indeed can change fate, to whom should we demonstrate what we’re capable of? Could there be a way to modify the data, which composes the famous book of life, just as easy as correcting something on a computer? And if that is true, how do we know that there wasn’t a mistake in the first place, and our determination does not do more than correct it?

Obviously, all that was presented before represents suppositions. Nevertheless, since there are different people who testify that their lives changed, this increases our confidence that we can do it too. If we can’t control our destiny, we can, at least, contribute to what’s happening to us during our existence.

It could be called psychology self improvement, based on the time-honored golden rules of respect and truth. So how do we incorporate psychology self improvement into our supposedly unknown destiny, and how can psychology self improvement impact our lives and the people around us? Once we decide on psychology self improvement, how can we begin acting on psychology self improvement everyday?

Maybe, although we were supposed to have a less fortunate destiny, if we treat others the right way, if we are always honest and always mind the truth, somehow bad fate will go around us, showing us that we can make our own destiny.

On the other hand, we cannot help wondering what happens to a person who starts off with a wonderful destiny, but during his or her life commits a series of unpardonable mistakes. Will that destiny change?

Could it be true that we actually get the destiny we deserve? Persons who suffer tremendously for having lost somebody dear to them or persons born with a disease or a handicap, will answer no! There are a lot of innocent people in pain, so the theory that we get what we deserve is not always accurate. But what if we have to pay for the errors others committed? Would that make us think deeper before carrying out something we are not really proud of, fearing that some innocent human being will pay, in the future, for our present actions?

There is no doubt that opinions are split when it comes to such a subject. However, meditating on this kind of themes helps us understand ourselves better and, hopefully, gets us closer to appreciating our fate and destiny.

Emotions tend to dominate our actions and reactions, even though we like to claim otherwise. Society often sees emotions as a sign of weakness, so we got used to putting them aside and try to focus on the rational aspects more and more. But no matter how strict and logical you want to be, you will always be a human being, not a robot, and so you will always feel.

Positive emotions are a life long goal for many of us. What is more important, in the end: how much money you made during your life or how many times you laughed? However, people tend to put their positive emotions in the dark shadow of their negative feelings. This is one of the biggest problems we come across during our lives. There is no obvious way to ignore a negative experience and try to replace it with positive ones. It just doesn’t work that way.

As a child, if your goldfish dies, you would be extremely sad. Your parents will certainly buy you another goldfish, but the sorrow still takes a long time to go away. Things get even more serious with adults. A fight with your spouse the night before will affect your entire day. You will go to work angry, tired, with your mind wandering. Then you will go home with an even worse mood. On the way from work towards home you won’t be able to notice the sun shining and you won’t be tempted to stop at the supermarket and buy your favorite ice cream. All these because that one negative thought contaminated the way you perceive the reality around you.

So what is the healthy alternative to a negative thought? The answer is relatively simple…it’s a positive attitude! The benefits of a positive attitude are tremendous, and a positive attitude is reflected in both your mental and physical well being. You can achieve a positive attitude in a variety of ways. Give yourself peaceful space, search yourself for a positive attitude, and you will find out what best creates a positive attitude for you.

In this moment you will feel that finding a safe place to relax your mind would do wonders. And that place is relatively easy to find. It can be an actual location or an imaginary place. The best idea is to totally emerge yourself in it. Let’s say you have a problem on your mind and it just won’t go away. Go bowling! You don’t know how to bowl, you say? No problem, go out and try it! Get caught up in the game, think about those funny shoes, choose a favorite ball, invent new strategies to throw and so on. Your mind will suddenly jump from the negative thoughts that dominated your last hours or days and start processing a whole new kind of information.

A safe place can get many forms. It can be a song, a movie, even a person. The main thing is to allow yourself to get completely involved with this new activity. You might still get flashes of the problem every now and then – ignore them and get even more involved in what you are doing.

When the bowling game, the song, the movie or the conversation ends you will have a rather abrupt return to your problems. You will probably feel sad and want to go back to the safe place. Don’t do that. The safe place exists only as a helping hand, not as a solution to your problems. It is there to help you relax your mind, for a few minutes or hours. This is a vital stage in your solution to what is bothering you. You will return from your safe place with an increased energy level. You will feel better about yourself and gain more confidence that any issue can be resolved. This is how a small escape from a harsh reality can increase your fighting energy and allow you to solve even the most difficult problems.